Thursday, May 17, 2012
Mom/Granny/GLAD Know Best
A long, often emotionally wracking struggle finishes with this school year. In September, Jen will attend a new public school. She'll no longer be ostracized or isolated or punished or sent hither and yon to use a toilet.
Almost all of us are wont to say this or that is "only common sense." Likewise, many of us see respect for each other and our shared humanity as right and necessary. Jen finally will have those baselines.
Background: The original post on her schooling and the bizarre, hostile behavior of school officials is here.
In the case of this smart, loving transgender child, only a family support system, augmented with the straight-ahead savvy and attitude of a GLAD lawyer brought respect and kindness. Jen's mother and grandmother did battle as necessary school officials, while buoying Jen at home to compensate for the daily angst. They lavish praise on the GLAD attorney who helped them, or as they put it, "the most wonderful, caring, thoughtful, selfless man, My Attorney Janson!!!! He gave us more than we could ever ask for."
And there you have it. Yes, he negotiated with school officials. He educated them (and Jen's family) on the requirements and limits of the law. (The national Americans with Disability Act, for example, excludes transgender, relying on state statutes and public officials to be savvy and humane.) Certainly having legal oomph behind you never hurts.
The solution of switching schools would seem less than ideal. The other elementary school students were fine with Jen's transition. It was only a parent or two and the administrators who were crazed over her closing the bathroom stall door once or twice a day. They should have been the ones to change and mature and humanize.
However, The key here is that Jen gets to be a student and a child and a girl in school. That really shouldn't have been so hard.