He has even written a book on marriage, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage and My Family, Dutton, due September 22, 2005. While that may seem odd for a very openly gay man, consider:
- He married and quickly divorced a lesbian because the state would give them a license, but not give her one for her female partner, knowing that it was a sham.
- He and his long-term partner adopted and are raising a boy from birth, as detailed in the Times article and another Savage book.
- His mother (and recently his 5-year-old) are all for him and his partner (boyfriend in his word) marrying, while he leans away from doing so.
- Savage and his beau will occasionally, as apparently most married heterosexual couples, be sexually unfaithful. This is a major factor in his questioning the promises couples make in a wedding ceremony.
- He attends the weddings of his gay friends with mixed feelings.
Savage is another creature. He loves his partner. They have been together for a long time. He rarely is attracted to, much less pursues, another man. Yet, he does not care for the hypocrisy of marriage that seems to lead so many straight men and women into adulterous affairs.
Clearly, anyone with Savage's thoughts and feelings would not be in the first wave of legally married homosexuals. Nor should he be.
Perhaps we should recall that the same Old Testament used to damn homosexual activity assign adultery to the abomination to God class of behavior as well
We're betting that the first wave included many Massachusetts couples who had already mated for life and just wanted the paper and privileges that come with marriage. Could Savage be one of the second wave who commit only after struggling, musing, discussing and perhaps even praying?